Recommendations, Trips and Events

WHY I MAKE SPECIAL EXPERIENCES:

My options to support a positive development, a healthy identity and immerse my children’s stress is through creativity and tangible action. It’s like a spiral that spins in a negative direction. I’ll try to get it to turn in a positive direction and it’s up to me and the surroundings, the girls can not even. They can help to contribute to reversing the spiral, but the responsibility is mine. They can help , to approve ideas, correct them and help me with the pointers in the right direction for them.

Ex . if I come up with an idea, they can tell me the correct/ incorrect details, as seen from outside their eyes. On the way we work together. A very good experience, can help  to turn a “negative spiral ” the other way. For all the people it applies that a good experience, looking forward and any experiences that can delight us long after. In the case of people with generalities in life is not immediate available, there is a need for active involvement and awareness of its importance to the individual.

My goal for a special treat is that there is ” ccessibilityrequirements” on site  sites we will visit  is not it , I drop it and find new opportunities.

I do this because I know that it is vital for girls harmonic formation of identity, which will be important for being able to operate as efficiently as possible in an incomprehensible world and for their psychological well-being and the threshold of vulnerability.

My girls are hyper empathic; the very strong senses of others ‘moods, so if we visit places with a poor basic attitude toward the needs of autism, the experience will subsequently have more or less bad influence on girls’ self-image.

It took me many years – and many experiences before I learned it and stood firm in what I had learned, because it’s so easy to be tempted. It was often an experience one of us really wanted to, but I did not dare/ could not bear contact the site and ask for help or I had tried to ask for help, and the place was anything but welcoming, but because of us, so wanted “we took a chance” and hoped.

None of the time it was a success. We were totally exhausted and one of the kids could have a meltdown when we got home. There may be parts of the experience was good …. but as autistic details are often crucial to the whole, so the outfall, was very bad.

So when an experiential idea starts, I do the following:

I examine the property using the website and by Google information about the place. Today, you can actually find an enormous amount of information on the web.

I am making a PowerPoint with comprehensive information and pictures.

From the outside information, it is for me, easy to see the details that are a challenge and because I myself is autistic and has the theoretical background knowledge of developmental psychology , autism , etc. and I’m teaching creative, I usually easy to find solutions. The opportunities I write also into PowerPoint.

I examine visitor statistics, parking, attendant regulations, prices, opening hours, there are many children, accessibility and good access, food options, how does it look , etc.

Take contact to the site – in many places, they have a event coordinator, I contacts who can help me with the questions I could not get answered via their website. I convey autism and trying to arrange some “special” details the experience and I have agreed a contact person on site, as our safety. In such telephone calls or mail contact, I sense very quickly place setting and fundamental disability view. Then I know if it is a possible place to visit or not.

I spend a lot of time on individual experiences and I have gradually learned that not everyone has the momentum detail sense, knowledge and abilities that I have. Therefore, I decided that this would also benefit other for good. I want to help others and pass on anything I can, like others helps me with things I can not.

So here will be able to see how I’m doing good things for my children, hand in hand with autism. As Temple Grandin said in an age of around 60 years: “I began to live WITH my autism”. We can start from the beginning and I think the end result will be better. So near normal as possible, I will support my children to live in harmony with them they are.

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OTHER PEOPLE’S ROLE IN RELATION TO A SPECIAL EXPERIENCE

Each human struggling to form a healthy identity, achieve happiness, to feel harmony and have a certain inner satisfaction with who you are. This is where the “good experience” with welcoming people are of particular importance. There are essentially five factors determining one’s identity, of which only one, as such, are one yourself. The other 4 are dependent on other people and especially the mirroring other people provide.

15 % of Danes are born under other circumstances. They have different disabilities.

Most disabilities can be seen with the naked eye and interest, needs and support is more accessible, because it is obvious that without legs you can not walk, sitting in a wheelchair, you can not climb stairs and if your retarded, the environment usually also are more understanding.

The invisible disabilities are more difficult. A pervasive developmental disorder of the brain often can not be seen and autism often is the most profound disability. The research conveys that autism is ” the most difficult disabilities in many ways to live with because it affects all aspects of life and special. Particularly high function autism, as Aspergers”.

The mirroring of other people have a high impact when the disability is not visible and it is so pervasive as autism is. The reflections are often negative, which often means a skewed identity, negative self-images, depleting self-esteem and therefore suffer many autistics of psychological sequelae such as ocd, depression, eating disorders etc.

Regardless of disability, you are in greater and lesser extent, dependent on others, whether you like it or not. I do not know anyone with disabilities who are comfortable with the addiction.

When you ask for help, it is often an unworthy humiliating feeling that we too often have experience with, being rejected, belittled, suspicion and mockery. We often end up with, to give up. We dare not.

I also get gripped by panic disorder and fear of man, but I  keep on fighting for my children.

When it comes to myself , I give up and are totally dependent on others for help if I need to have good experiences, because I can not deal with to consider my own needs. I can not believe there is no motivation – only fear. But when it comes to my children, they are my motivation, I know emotionally what it is, what it takes and meanings.

It’s not a choice I have – it is a “must”, a responsibility that comes with the honor of being a mother.

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EVALUATION

I will give you an evaluation, recommendations, etc. of the various theme parks and places we have visited or been in contact with.

This I will do with a sincere truth and hope it will help others to good experiences and so far avoiding an unnecessary mistreatment.

I want the locations, try to establish contacts with better accesses which can ease some stress for you and maybe do some things available, that you would not otherwise experience.

I ask you, over time, if you make use of these contacts to remember A good tone, show gratitude and represent our autistic world honorably.

 

DO NOT RUIN IT FOR OTHERS & REPRESENTING A GOOD TONE!

  • BE QUIET
  • NOT SHOUTING OR TALK VERY HIGH
  • CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF
  • REMEMBER YOU/ YOU ARE AMBASSADORS FOR AUTISTIC AND DISABLED. THIS MEANS THAT YOUR/ YOUR FATE IS TO ALL OTHER OS
  • IS YOUR CHILD, YOUNG LOUD/ DISTURBING SO GO THE REMOTE – AND SHOW MOST POSSIBLE ACCOUNT
  • ARE YOU YOUNG/ ADULT AUTISTIC AND YOU NOTICE FRUSTRATION, THEN ASK FOR HELP – GO AWAY
  • REMEMBER IT IS OFTEN DIFFICULT TO “BUILDING BRIDGES” AS THAT WHICH IS TRANSPARENCY AND WILLINGNESS TO PROCEED WITH REGARD TO US.